¿Celebrate?

middle-age American living in New Jersey near the Lincoln Tunnel «« I have a feeling some men might think it’s weird for me to celebrate having my exwife invited to a family gathering and memorial for my late mother, Martha. ONE: my link w my exwife broke and it’s my intention now and forever to keep that break permanent TWO: I always (sometimes it felt naively) intended to break with my exwife while leaving all other links in tact, time might run out, but this invite of my ex-wife to my mother’s memorial affirms I’m tracking in the right direction. THREE: premature death, like my first born son, David, helped me realize death order reflecting birth order is unreliable, but not a fantasy aka I have reason to expect I’ll precede my surviving son, and daughter in death, and if so their relationship with my side of their family might be preserved even considering me an out-of-state and mostly absent father. When my exwife became a mother of our children she earned a permanent place in my side of our kid’s family, and when our first born, David, died I have reason to believe that place in my-side family was reinforced. I’ve been in the long game, and this feels great. »» 302-990-2346 blog