middle-age American living in New Jersey near the Lincoln Tunnel «« Erika comments recently after reading, “former amigo”. She read it as me pushing people’s buttons, but it could also have been called arrogance, viciousness, cruelty, or social recklessness. “Pushing buttons” is a friendly version of the latter, and someone participating in an LTR like with one’s mom might push her buttons most as a teenage girl reaching for independence. “Pushing buttons” is not what I was doing, but rather countering. In Diego’s case there was more retaliation and cruelty to what I wrote, because the occasion called for an expression of anger to someone who had disrespected me and closed the door with a fb unfriend. As I explained to Erika in my reply I was not being reckless with a friend. He was kind and generous to my wife, so I was happy to engage with him over almost two decades, and Hana felt no restraint from me, and engaged with Diego naturally. Dear kind readers: Diego was only an fb amigo to me, and I would not have understood our differences until the Trump campaigns. Please consider my advice: feel the wound of a lost friendship dependent on a digital component while realizing these friendships would be nothing without a digital component. See them as periphery. A loss at one’s periphery is not one’s core, and recovery should be brief leaving one feeling stable. Sincerely, Tom Doody. My Christmas greeting this year reflects what I’m blogging about now. My core feels healthy enough to mention my first marriage that failed, a dead child, and a popularity crash in a Christmas greeting. Though traumatic history in a Christmas greeting is not traditional it felt perfect given my Christmas 2020 sentiment. My holiday greeting had a 1998 picture, and talking about the joy of that moment without mention of the trauma that followed would have left me feeling I told too little of the story. As it was I had an unusual Christmas greeting, which got favorable responses, and is right for Covid 2020. Most of all the wake of a greeting like mine reinforced the joy I feel this Christmas eve, and my optimism for 2021. »» about me 302-990-2346
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