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middle-age American living in New Jersey near the Lincoln Tunnel «« This post centers on three men whose sons preceded them in death: ONE: me TWO: surviving father of Srinivas Kuchibhotla THREE: surviving father of William (Ryan) Owens. The emotion triggered by loss is an emotion I try to very carefully not to ignore. Yesterday I had a day in solitude with no agenda. A Sunday alone recently pushes me to Jersey City or NYC, because of the Citibikes, so after finding suitable text for Srinivas I found a Catholic church in Jersey City. I wish I could call them benches (pews). I sat on the far left of the back pew trying to keep the piano as background, and not a distraction in my audio. There I dedicated time to the memory of a man, Srinivas, I had not known alive. Emotionally I attended a funeral allowing myself to feel the pain of his loss. Srinivas’ death is palpable in India. Though he was not famous for anything he did while living he represents a class of India’s young professionals. This class of young professions are central to India’s National pride. Though the Hindu Times cannot explain the value in detail of Srinivas’s technical work the paper tried knowing Indians were hungry for Srinivas to be recognized as an example of a high-achieving Indian. There was also text pointing to the underwhelming response of Americans, which is the point I make universal to the three surviving fathers of this post. It is my advice to anyone who is preceded in death by a son or daughter is to embrace all the expressions of loss. One example of me practicing my own advice was during my recovery from David’s death. I hunted comments expressed on the funeral-home website and legacy.com and replied to all asking if I could call. I had reason to be miffed by the many . . . . silence . . . no reply . . . and I’m sure I was at the time, but time has focused on the people who did take my call and time has reduced to a trace the bitterness I felt from those who left me feeling snubbed. Dear kind readers: If you are a serial reader of this blog you have reason to know I’ve explored this topic of surviving a son or daughter thoroughly. By knowing this you have an opportunity to help someone like the surviving father of Navy Seal Owens. Sincerely, Tom Doody. The surviving father of Navy Seal Owens declined to meet President Trump, and if I had been a trusted advisor I would have counseled him to accept all expressions of loss, especially the Commander and Chief. The President has other things to do like attempting to increase military spending, so more soldiers like Navy Seal Owen can give their lives to make this country great again. It is no skin off Trump’s ass to weather Owen’s snub yet Owen might live to regret snubbing the President. In my estimation proving the wisdom of the snub is impossible . . . even with time . . . . especially with time. »» about me 302-990-2346 nearlincoln@hotmail.com contact us

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middle-age American living in New Jersey near the Lincoln Tunnel
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