emotional 911 passing

middle-age American living in New Jersey near the Lincoln Tunnel «« I think one of the reasons people don’t like social media includes one of the reasons striking me with negative emotion at this moment.  It seems I learned of a facebook loophole by chance.  Hovering over the likes on Ellen’s pic from California I see Steffen, but clicking on the likes and looking at the list his name vanishes.  I think it is meaningful and personal and I feel emotional pain return.  I can feel the nuance of dark moments like this continuing to shape my personality.  There is much psychological evidence that says human personalities are mostly shaped in childhood.  Although I know of no academic studies to show how adult major trauma reshapes personality I believe it’s true.  I also believe social media has the potential to reshape personalities.  During the period I was hunting for a wife, I joined match.com, which scored Hana, and I found the rejection I experienced online was emotionally indistinguishable with non-virtual rejection.  I can categorize the rejection I experienced on match.com: ONE: passive, which is characterized by a couple of clicks and exchanges that appear to be advancing, and then nothing  TWO: a lot of text, phone calls, and a non-virtual meeting, and then an active, “addio”.  I experienced both types, and both types hurt.  The passive rejections were more painful for two reasons: ONE: logistics allowed me to experienced more of them in a short period of time  TWO: the passive end gave no closure.  The second type including a non-virtual meeting and an active, “addio” were more memorable, but they tended to have closure and allow me to move on more quickly.  Move on more quickly, but yet more memorable?  Yes, ironic, but true.  The type of match.com active rejection had emotional pain of rejection that died more quickly, but yet the memories endure.  This new method of dating came with high-concentration rejection.  This new method also allowed me to score Hana quickly and get out – awesome.  I was hooked, and it further shaped my personality online – though in all types of social – not romance.  Today, I am faced with this chance discovery that Steffen blocked me – oops I stand corrected.  At closer look I have not been blocked — emotional 911 passing. »» about me  201-490-9659  Mom angry  nearlincoln@hotmail.com  contact us

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middle-age American living in New Jersey near the Lincoln Tunnel
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