Hey Michael I hear you have marriage trouble

middle-age American living in New Jersey near the Lincoln Tunnel «« Erika mortified is an audio message from a loyal reader, which says Erika would be mortified if she were related to me, and I wrote about her in the way I have written about family members.  I have morphed my methods of communicating into a non-traditional format, and I would defend it if I were asked to, but I have not been asked to.  Erika’s comment is the closes anyone has come to challenging me, but she falls short of requesting me to defend myself.  Today I came close again to an event that would have me defending my methods, but again, close means it fell short of an occasion for me to defend myself.  I am becoming settled that my writing can be compared to tabloid or yellow journalism.  For example, the people magazine cover months ago had Michael Douglas marriage trouble, and if Michael were my brother I would not say, “I heard you are having marriage trouble”, and my blog is the same.  People may read something in my blog, but it does not give them the sense my words are actionable.  Another example is my nephew announcing his engagement on facebook.  I learned when it was fresh, but I kept my mouth shuts as if I did not know.  This is weird, why do I write the way I do about family events given that my words are not actionable?  At the moment I’ll only say I don’t have an answer, but I’ve probably explained something on the subject in the past, and I’ll probably repeat in the future.  I learned today my brother is still married, and he has plans to reconcile with his wife – oops, that means I was wrong – yes, that’s exactly what it means, but I have family members who tells me the opposite is true, and I can’t reconcile the disparate reports.  The only thing I am pretty sure of is the female member of the couple is talking, and the male member, my brother, is not.  We all have no doubt of the moment they changed from single to married, but the current reversal is cloudy, and it appears my brother chooses to remain silent on the subject for now.  Soon in the capable hands of the kind people of the United States Postal Service will be a letter I’ve written to my brother explaining this news.  I also say, “I’m here for you” with my number and email address.  Though I do not have conclusive evidence I can be sure my brother got fewer Christmas cards in the recent two years, because of the cloud that formed about his marital status, and confusion about where he’s living and his address.  This could be seen as family withdrawing support when a clear show of support is the better message to send during a time of transition.  Oh well, families are not perfect. »» about me  201-490-9659  Erika mortified  nearlincoln@hotmail.com  contact us

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middle-age American living in New Jersey near the Lincoln Tunnel
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